April 18th, 2021
Welcome to our first update!!
If you're here, that means you said YES to getting weird!
Congratulations and good correct choice!
Welcome to our first update!!
If you're here, that means you said YES to getting weird!
Congratulations and good correct choice!
Registry is up.
We will ALSO include some weird offerings in alphabetical order with each of our 3.5 updates before GWITW weekend.
"Awww maaaaannn do I have to???"
Do you have to what??? You don't even know what this is yet!!!
"Ok, what is it??"
That's better.
We were wildly disappointed to discover our guests were only planning on bringing an average of 7.23/10 weirdness to the weekend. No gift is fine, but this is simply unacceptable.
Do you want to do something about this or not??
"I don't think weird means what you think it means."
Ok, we know what it means, ok?
Boom.
But you're right, we're weirdly using the word weird in a weird way. To us, being weird means prioritizing our joy, growth, empathy, connection, and play while actively working not to be a barrier to anyone else's ability to do the same.
We created this newsletter to practice our own weirdness and want you to look at it and tell us we're cool.
TLDR; Nothing past here is logistically important to the wedding (or anything above actually). Only scroll through if it makes you feel weird. We hope it does!
❤️ chuby
“Pleasure is the point.
Feeling good is not frivolous, it is freedom.”
― adrienne maree brown,
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
"Audre Lorde taught us that caring for ourselves is 'not self-indulgence, it is an act of political resistance', and although we know how to meme and tweet those words, living into them is harder...And right now we need to be in rigorous practice, because we can no longer afford to love people the way we’ve been loving them...
"Radical Honesty: We begin learning to lie in intimate relationships at a very early age. Lie about the food your mother made, to avoid punishment, as you swallow your tears, about loving this Valentine’s Day gift, about the love you want and how you feel...
"We also learn that love is a limited resource and the love we want and need is too much, that we are too much. We learn to shrink, to lie about the whole love we need, settling with not-quite-good-enough in order to not be alone.
"We have to engage in an intentional practice of honesty to counter this socialization. We need radical honesty—learning to speak from our root systems about how we feel and what we want. Speak our needs and listen to others’ needs. To say—I need to hear that you miss me. When you’re high all the time it’s hard for me to feel your presence. I lied. The way you talked to that man made me feel unseen. Your jealousy makes me feel like an object and not a partner. The result of this kind of speech is that our lives begin to align with our longings, and our lives become a building block for authentic community and, ultimately, a society that is built around true need, real people..."
Love as Political Resistance by adrienne maree brown.
(Here Chris will prepare for his
distant and uncertain future as a father.)
"To be frank, I'd have to change my name."
Create your own Playfulness Practice!
“'All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.' Before becoming a scary trope in a Kubrick’s movie, this was an ancient proverb. Playfulness is often interpreted as frivolous—something associated with children activities, or as something purely physical. Yet playfulness is an inherent part of human nature, and is crucial for personal growth. Playfulness as a practice can be associated with any intrinsically motivated activity done for enjoyment and recreational pleasure.
“'Playfulness is, in part, an openness to being a fool, which is a combination of not worrying about competence, not being self-important, not taking norms as sacred and finding ambiguity and double edges a source of wisdom and delight,' explains Professor Maria Lugones..."
Build your own PaaP: playfulness as a practice by Anne-Laure Le Cunff
Chris and Ruby were both born in 1987. In an unorganized and unintentional search, we decided without much thought that this was our favorite song from that year that could be danced to. You. Are. Welcome.
(-author unknown)
Our own Miles Hartung did the right thing and offered to facilitate an activity during GWITW weekend. He will be leading us in a few choreographed dances throughout the night on Sept 18th! His favorite is the Cha-Cha Slide. Please see below for a refresher.
For those of us who struggle with dance moves, here is an hilariously white breakdown of the steps from the 80s or 90s.
(Here we will conclude with a relevant laugh and Ruby will bug Chris by including an extra U in 'humor'.)
Imagine jam klamps lingering married near opal penguins, quit runny stone's throws under very wet, xerox your zoo.